Random thoughts (really needing to just get stuff off of my chest....)

Friday, February 29, 2008


Things seem to be coming together. Somehow I have managed to keep my kids and my husband alive these past few days. Not sure how... I did forget to eat yesterday until about dinner time. UGH! I am back at work so trying to juggle all of this is tricky. But, I can do this. Like Barak Obama says "YES WE CAN!" I can with the help of my friends..

On that note... does anyone know of an award that you can give to people who save your life daily? If so I have about 10 people who deserve to get it. I never knew friendships really meant all of this. I am so lucky.

Jeff is healing. Slowly. He is still walking like a cute little old man. He has slowed on the pain meds as they make him real groggy. He actually played a bit of World of Warcraft today so you know he is feeling a bit better. We have it all set up for him in the bedroom. I plan to make him shower today. That will be interesting. These wash ups have been fun but I am ready to hose him down. I know he will feel better when he is clean. It's not fun to be musty.

My folks are off to some foreign land- what a way to retire. They are having so much fun. I just hope that we plan that well so we can do that too.

Again, thanks for all of your thoughts.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Trying to stay above water.

He pooped. We're home. Not sure how comfortable I am with that. I am sure it will be fine. My friend K went and picked up his walker and raised toilet seat so he can be more comfortable. He is sleeping now- didn't get much sleep at the hospital. Still very sore. It was a tough ride home for him.

I am worried about going to work. I am planning on going in for awhile tomorrow to try and catch up. I have so much shit to do. But you know what, I can do it. I have done it before. And this time help is to come. He is only down and out for awhile. Off to go fold laundry.


Isn't it funny how important it is to poop? We are waiting here at the hospital until he is able to do this most important process. There is a small chance that he may have ileus- which means that his intestines may have stopped working for a bit. This could be caused by the anesthesia. Not sure this is what is going on but the boy has not pooped. If this is the case he would need to be in the hosital a few more days. They would stop food intake and put a tube down his throat to clean out his belly. Then his body would slowly start to work things through again. Hopefully he does not have this.

We will wait and see how today goes- he may come home today. I am nervous about taking him home and caring for him. Especially since I have two kids and a full time job. But we will make it. Always do.

His pain seems to be a bit better today. He was up walking around 5 times yesterday and 2 times today. I have a script for a walker and raised comode. Fun. He is farting like a trooper so let's hope we get some real substance..

The kids are doing great with this. Veda has been a bit anxious about her Daddy. I took her out for a special mommy daughter breakfast this morning. She needed it. Soren just needs to sleep. Little shit was up several times last night. Just needed some loving I guess. More later.

Monday, February 25, 2008

In his room

We are finally up in his room. He is in a lot of pain. They have him on some pretty good drugs but I can still tell that he is really hurting. Looks like 3-5 days until we go home. Both Veda and Soren are in bed thanks to my parents. Both happy. All is good.


So the Dr. just came to get me. He pulled me into a little side room which I have to admit my heart dropped through the floor- I was sure something really bad had happened. Looks like everything will be okay. They replaced 3 disks. They caged in the disks with titanium rods, screws and cadaver bones. Yum. The Dr. said it was a bit worse than what he expected. Now comes the recovery. We will have about 3 days in the hospital. He will wear a protective brace for 4-6weeks then move from there. I am glad this part is over. Now I just want to see him.

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. We used up every single one of them.


So here we sit at the hospital just waiting. They took Jeff back about 2 hours ago and we got the call an hour ago that the surgery had started. Looks like I should be able to see him again around 6pm tonight. About a 3-4 procedure. Just received a call from the surgery room and they say "everything is going fine."

My stomach is squiggly. I am anxious. Thank goodness for my parents. I have one on each side of me now.

Send Jeffe good vibes.

Sunday, February 24, 2008


It's been a long time. I know. Things are busy here. Jeff has surgery tomorrow. They are replacing 2 of his disks with titanium stuff then sculpting cadaver bone around it. YUCK! He will be in the hospital for 3-5 days and has a pretty lengthy recovery. 6-8 weeks VERY restricted and another 6-8 months with no lifting or twisting. So he can't hold Soren for the next 8 months.. Hopefully all will go well and he will be back in working shape sooner than later. I am also worried about how I am going to hold the fort down with work, two kids, animals and I am supposed to be getting ready for my big social work license exam.

I think we are both a bit anxious. When you are that close to the central nerve... Let's just hope they don't slip.

Veda turned 7 yesterday. She also lost her 5th tooth. Belinda her tooth fairy gave her a little somethin somethin extra. She was pretty excited. She has a talent show on Friday- playing piano.

Soren starts daycare full time tomorrow. I don't want to talk about it... He will be fine. He is growing like a weed. Still not wanting to give in to crawling. He likes his army commando crawl. Works fine for him. He is pretty much eating "people" food. Only a few more baby food jars in our house. He has 6 teeth and is working on a few more I think.

I have my big Disability Awareness Week at my job the week of March 10th. Hope I can pull this all off on top of stuff here. I have been planning all year.

And on the saddest note... Our very close family friend Bishop Thomas Makarios died yesterday. He was in a car accident on 1-5-08 and was never able to recover.
Sorry I couldn't get that one picture to rotate.
Send Jeffe good thoughts tomorrow around noon.